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Backed by popular demand, several of Mark’s readers asked if I might write about how I learned how to squirt. I am flattered by your interest and I would love to share my experiences with everyone.  I thought I would write a few pointers on what I found worked best for me.  Hopefully you will find them useful too.  So here they are:

1. Very important – find time and place where no one will disturb you. I most definitely suggest you first practice this on your own, exploring your body and figuring out what works for you. Once you have learnt it, you’ll be able to share it with your partner. You have to be perfectly relaxed and not worrying if someone is going to enter your room asking you what you were doing. Make sure you go to pee before your practice – this will remove the anxiety that you might pee instead of ejaculating. Let go of any expectations, don’t create the pressure to perform. Relax and have fun. Eventually it will happen.
2. Practice. Now the fun begins. Create a nice relaxing scene. Whatever works for you – dim the lights, light candles, turn on some nice music, make sure that it’s warm, so you can be comfortable naked. Get a couple of thick towels so you don’t need to worry about getting the bed wet. Think of something that will help you to get aroused. Think of your favorite fantasy, and start touching yourself. Do whatever works for you, lay down, sit comfortably or stand; touch your breasts, your legs, your vulva, your clit to get yourself in a highly aroused state. Now, when you are wet and ready start playing with your G-spot. If you usually play with it when you pleasure yourself then you know what to do. If not – experiment. Find out how much pressure you like, find out what kind of strokes – you are not in a hurry, take your time. Rub it, squeeze it, apply pressure on it. Use circular movement or move along it. You’ll notice that your G-spot will engorge and move a little to the outside of your vagina – that’s normal and it means that it’s working; you are on the way to ejaculation. Keep arousing yourself but not to the point of orgasm.
3. Try to ejaculate! Your arousal will become greater and greater, and when you continue stimulating your G-spot, you’ll start feeling the urge to pee. It’s actually the urge to ejaculate although when you are starting to practice it might feel like the urge to pee. Don’t worry; you are not going to pee. With your G-spot enlarged and swollen, your body wants a release – it wants to ejaculate! Don’t try to stop it. Most women contract, worrying that they might pee, but you need to relax into this sensation and continue stimulating the G-spot. Now this is the trick – you have to push out to ejaculate. If you are just starting practicing you’ll have to figure it out by trial and error. Make sure your G-spot is really engorged, take out your finger or the sex toy you were using and try to push like you were trying to pee. If nothing happens, continue again. Build up your arousal, play some more with the G-spot and try again. And again. Sometimes it helps to have a clitoral orgasm first and then continue to stimulate yourself and try to push out your ejaculate. If you familiar with G-spot orgasms try to bring yourself just to a point of having one and then try to push. Don’t wait until you are in a full blown orgasm, it might be too late. But keep practicing. It will come and it will get easier and easier. You will know your timing better.
4. Keep practicing. You might ejaculate on your first try – congratulations! You might not. With enough practice you will. At first it might be without an orgasm, it might feel forced and it also might be quite a small amount of liquid. Whatever happens – it’s great, it’s your first step. With more practice it will feel less forced, you’ll know your timing instinctively, you’ll push when the time is right and eventually you’ll be able to experience an orgasm along with ejaculation. You might first have only clitoral orgasm while ejaculating, if you continue stimulating your clit while pushing out the ejaculate. Keep practicing – spend less time and energy playing with your clit and more with your G-spot. Keep stimulating the G-spot and bring yourself to the verge of a clitoral orgasm, then slow down and cool off a bit, continue rubbing and applying pressure to the G-spot bring yourself to another verge, and cool down again – at some point you’ll be so excited you’ll feel the G-spot orgasm coming and with it will come the ejaculate. Push and feel the orgasm go through your body. The liquid will flow freely and you might find that you can ejaculate again and again in one session.
5. What’s next? Now when you get a pretty good idea how to ejaculate – it’s time to go and play with your partner. He (or she) will be very pleasantly surprised! Let them know how to stimulate you in the right way, feel your arousal building and when the time is right – push it out. Most women need the men to pull out his penis before they can ejaculate. Experiment with it. Try it – you’ll soon know what works for you and what doesn’t. Don’t forget to put a towel on the bed and let go of any expectations. Relax. If it happens – great, if not – it’s not a big deal, it will happen soon.

Do write me about your practice and experiences with squirting.  If you have any questions please send them my way, I would love to answer them.  I look forward to reading your comments.