This will be a two part post.  In the first post I will discuss the sometimes brutal truth about AFF’s Male to Female ratio.  It is not pretty, but the numbers can be deceiving.  In the second post I will attempt to soften the blow by describing ways in which the Male to Female ratio has been badly skewed in the wrong direction.  There is hope for men on AFF as I would argue there are more women on this site then there appears to be at first glance.

One of the biggest complaints about the Adultfriendfinder (AFF) website is the Male to Female ratio (M/F).   Most commonly when a new member signs up, they soon discover there are vastly more men than women.   This realization can often be very discouraging to the male members and prompts many of them to give up on the site soon after signing up.  But what is the real M/F ratio on AFF?   I have seen many numbers being quoted ranging from an almost utopian 70:30 reported on the Dating Service website to a dreadful 17:1 ratio reported in some member reviews.  However, the most common figure I seem to come across for the M/F ratio is 10:1.

I believe there can be several different ways at looking M/F ratio on AFF.  There is the apparent M/F ratio which can be fairly easy to calculate and can very quite a bit from place to place.  I will examine in detail the apparent M/F ratio for a bunch of cities throughout North America, Europe and Asia.

Then there is the actual M/F ratio which is much harder to quantify.   The actual M/F ratio is more like a moving target and not too easy to figure out.  Maybe you will better understand what I mean with the following illustration.  The apparent M/F ratio is a lot like a conveyor belt of chocolate bars being fed to pack of hungry wolves; there is a pack of wolves hoping to get a chance to scarf down a few chocolate bars that fall from the conveyor.  The number of wolves remains relatively constant but the number of chocolate bars on the conveyor belt varies over time.  If we were to compare the total number of wolves to the total number of chocolate bars that traveled on the conveyor belt over a set period of time, we would find the ratio of those two numbers would be different than the apparent M/F ratios we find.  Well, I think you get the picture.  I will attempt to elaborate more on how this phenomenon works on AFF, but first I will review our apparent M/F ratios.

When calculating the apparent M/F ratios on AFF, I made a few assumptions.  I will be basing all my M/F ratios on the ‘Men Seeking Women’ and ‘Women Seeking Men’ categories.  I have excluded all the gay men, lesbian women and Male/Female couples from the ratio as they are seeking different kinds of casual relationships and should not be included.  Using these assumptions I have calculated the M/F ratio for a number of North American, European, Middle Eastern and Asian locations:

The above numbers show quite a spread in AFF’s M/F ratio ranging from 7:1 in Japan to 59:1 in India.  The English speaking countries of Canada, the United Kingdom and the United States have the best M/F ratio with a range of 10:1 to 16:1.   If we consider only the English speaking countries and that the majority of the listings are in the United Sates these numbers would seem to confirm the 10:1 M/F ratio.

Interestingly enough, Japan does better than all the English speaking countries with a decent 7:1 M/F ratio.  Leaving Japan aside, once we leave the English speaking countries the wheels fall off for men just about everywhere else.  Starting with a 15:1 M/F ratio in Hong Kong it falls to a disastrous 59:1 M/F ratio in India.  Even in many of the very sexually liberal countries of Europe the M/F ratio starts out horribly at 16:1 in the UK and falls to a pathetic 36:1 M/F ratio in the Netherlands.  The poor international M/F ratios would indicate that AFF is really only a practical option for English speaking people in the United States, the United Kingdom and Canada.  I believe international results speak for themselves, and they are a lost cause. Their poor M/F ratios are more likely an indicator that people in those countries are probably using dating sites developed in their own language.

Considering the above numbers, AFF’s M/F ratio really does not get much better than 10:1.  Even with a M/F ratio of 10:1 things look quite bleak out there.  Those are steep odds even for the most masochistic of men.  However, all is not lost as I would argue that the actual M/F ratio is better than the 10:1 listed above.  In my next post on this topic, I will elaborate in more detail how this is the case.